It’s been a full month since I sat down and created this list. My goal was to try and do as many things on the list as I could. Which held me accountable for doing it but also didn’t cause any unnecessary pressure. Let me start with why I decided to explore romanticizing my life.

For me, bringing awareness, attention, and intention to my life creates moments of deep connection to the world around me. By being aware and intentional, I am creating the possibility and opportunity for me to feel connected to the world around me.

Here’s What I learned

I did not pressure myself to get the whole list done. I picked a few things each week that would naturally fit into my schedule. We think having a romantic life involves having an “Instagram” life. You know, the one where you travel around the world, or you know all the “it” people and go to the “it” events, or where you create this massive impact all around you.

Life is a dance between the big and the little moments; there is a perception out there that if you want to be happier, you need to add in more big moments. What I learned is that it is less about how big or little the moment is or even the quality of the moment. It is all about the intention. The decision to say, “I am going to savor this.” Our life is mostly made up of mundane, ordinary moments. Making the decision to feel that a moment is special made it special. My full attention was on the moment at hand. Experiencing life as it flowed.

The Doorway To Glimmers

Have you ever heard of a glimmer? A moment where you feel deeply connected and full of love. I created this list to allow myself to experience glimmers. Through being aware and intentional, and through harnessing my attention (what was I going to choose to feel?), I experience glimmers spontaneously and often. It’s not that I don’t feel pain or suffer anymore; I’m just not so consumed with them that I can’t see the beauty that exists around me.